Domestic violence is a complex form of tyranny that combines emotional, physical, sexual and other forms of abuse as a means to manipulate a partner. Domestic violence is often cyclical, with periods of relative calm followed by explosive incidents that end in promises of change. Above all, domestic violence leaves those in the household feeling powerless, isolated, and fearful.
Children are often used by batterers as one of their many tools of manipulation by threatening loss of custody, undermining the other parent’s authority, and rewarding misbehavior. Batterers extend their physical abuse to the children in 30-60% of cases and batterers are six times more likely than non-batterers to sexually assault children in the home.
Children who directly witness or indirectly experience domestic violence share the same trauma response. They are more likely to have trouble in school, score lower on standardized tests, and be anxious or depressed. Children exposed to violence are fifteen times more likely to become victims of domestic or sexual violence.
If you suspect a friend, family member or co-worker is a victim of domestic violence, ask. Victims who are asked about possible abuse are more likely to seek help. Remind them it’s not their fault and it’s not okay. Finally, refer them to local domestic violence organizations to get help. To find one near you, go to domesticshelters.org
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